The One With the Advice

I’m not sure that I would have listened to me, but if I could take a Wayne’s World time warp to impart some *wisdom* on my twenty-something self, these are a few of the things I would say.


1. Being creative is largely about protecting precious time. Be vigilant. Guard it like a mama bear defending her cub. Don’t allow anyone or anything (this includes yourself) to encroach on this time.

2. “I declare this world is so beautiful I can hardly believe it exists…” Ralph Waldo Emerson wrote this in his journal in 1840. And, boy, was he right. Look around.


Ralph Waldo Emerson: I would have definitely listened to your advice.

3. Put down your camera. You don’t need 200 blurry, half-lit photos taken in a bar on a rainy night. Come out from behind the camera and enjoy the evening. (You won’t remember most of their names anyway.)

4. Your parents aren’t necessarily the best advisers when it comes to your career. They’re from a different generation and the workplace has changed drastically. There are more ways to carve your own niche than ever before.

5. Don’t assume change is a bad thing. In fact, it can be very good.

6. Everything. everything, begins and ends with compassion.

Reggie_Roof deck

7. Those jeans you love? They don’t fit.

7a. That guy you love? He doesn’t fit either.

8. When you feel overwhelmed, take three DEEP breaths. It really does help.

9. The world needs introverts.

10. Follow your interests, even if they don’t seem practical. Remember how you really wanted to learn more about art history and astronomy? But you didn’t want to waste college scholarship money so you decided to take “useful” classes like marketing and management. Drudgery. You never enjoyed them much (okay, at all) and you were never engaged. Talk about a waste.

Botticelli's Venus

You could have studied things like this.

11. It’s not personal. Really. That eye-rolling cashier? Your spiteful roommate? These reactions have nothing to do with you at all. Even if it may seem that they are purposely being mean. it’s not about you.

12. The best way to find out if you can trust somebody is to trust them. I think Hemingway said this. There’s a lot of truth in that statement. How can you expect someone to trust you if you don’t first offer the same in kind?


What advice would you give to your younger self? 

Have a great weekend, everyone! 






    1. Thank you, Cynthia! I’m still working on the one about not taking things personally. That is usually my initial reaction. I have to take my deep breaths and step back from the situation to realize that it’s almost never about me.
      Have a great weekend!


  1. Your first piece of advice is my favorite. I think I’m like most people when it comes to making time for writing or painting. I always try to get all the ‘important’ stuff done before I sit down for creative time.

    Well, I never get all so-called important stuff done. There always is another chore, another email, another bill. We have to stake a claim on our creative time, before our moments of genius pass us by.


    1. Yes, I do the same — I rationalize that if I get all the little items knocked off my to-do list then I’ll have a chunk of time to devote to my writing. But somehow that “chunk of time” just disappears.
      Now I wake up early to write, and I find it’s the perfect block of time before the day intrudes.


  2. Wow, those are all great, Jackie. Such an awesome quote too!
    The advice I would give my younger self is that age-old “Don’t sweat the small stuff.” I worried way too much about little things.


    1. I still find myself worrying about the little things. I try to remind myself not to worry about things that I’m not even going to remember next week — easier said than done!


  3. Yes to all of it.

    I doubt younger me would have listened to older me. Still I might tell her things like: 1. Refuse to be offended. 2. When you forget number 1, forgive quickly. 3. Stay present. 4. Listen to happy songs. 5. Spend more time outside. 6. Call your mother. 7. Keep flowers where you can see them every day.


  4. This is great advice for my older self too. Good reminder. I happen to have a 20 year old that I’m going to share this with.


  5. Ah, I just love Reggie. Yes, compassion. My advice to my younger self is don’t try to please everyone, it’s not worth it. Stay true to yourself.


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